Therapy for ENM, Polyamory and Diverse Relationship Structures
I offer online therapy for adults navigating ethical non-monogamy (ENM), polyamory and other non-monogamous relationship structures across the UK. Whether you’re newly exploring non-monogamy or have been practising for years, therapy can offer a space to reflect on the relational patterns, emotional dynamics and attachment responses that show up within multi-partner systems.
Non-monogamy can be deeply intentional, joyful and expansive… and it can also surface jealousy, comparison, insecurity, and conflict in ways that feel overwhelming. Therapy is not about steering you toward monogamy or away from it, but about helping you understand what is happening internally and relationally so you can make grounded, conscious choices.
Common Themes in ENM & Polyamory
Some of the challenges people bring to therapy include:
- Jealousy and comparison
- Attachment anxiety or fear of abandonment
- Navigating NRE (new relationship energy)
- Negotiating boundaries and agreements
- Hierarchical vs non-hierarchical structures
- Communication breakdown
- Managing time, capacity and emotional overwhelm
- Differences in desire for monogamy or non-monogamy
- Repair after breaches of trust
These dynamics are rarely just about polyamory. They are often rooted in earlier attachment experiences, trauma, cultural conditioning around love and possession, or internalised narratives about worth and security. Unpacking these can be an important step towards regaining a sense of agency and choice.
A Depth-Oriented, Affirmative Approach
My work is integrative and depth-oriented. Alongside present-day relational challenges, we may explore how early experiences are shaping your responses now. Understanding attachment patterns and protective strategies allows more flexibility and emotional regulation within relationships.
I work affirmatively with non-monogamous clients. That means I do not pathologise ENM or assume monogamy is the default goal. Instead, we explore what kind of relational structure aligns with your values, needs and capacity.
I am also queer-affirming, sex-positive and kink-aware. Many ENM clients hold intersecting identities, and therapy should feel informed rather than merely tolerant.
What Change Might Look Like
Therapy in this context may support you to:
- Develop greater emotional regulation when jealousy or insecurity arises
- Communicate needs and boundaries more clearly
- Recognise and shift repetitive relational patterns
- Build a stronger sense of internal security
- Make intentional decisions about relationship structure
- Experience intimacy with more ease and less reactivity
Practical Details
I offer 50-minute online sessions on a weekly, open-ended basis. I charge £75 per session, with a discounted rate of £35 for our initial session. I’m based in the UK and I work with individual adults online.
If you’re unsure whether therapy focused on ENM or polyamory is right for you, I offer a free 15-minute introductory call so we can explore whether we’re a good fit.