About Therapy with Me
You might have heard that the most important part of therapy is the relationship you form with your therapist, and there is a significant amount of research which suggests this is the case. I work in a way which prioritises creating a relationship that feels safe enough for you to experiment with allowing more of yourself to be met, known, and responded to, so that we can gently work with whatever is feeling most challenging.
My approach also includes an awareness of who you might be becoming. The choice to come to therapy marks a significant point of transition – even if you’re still feeling stuck. While understanding your past and history is an important part of the process in making sense of how you’ve learned to be in the world, I always stay curious about the new seeds which might be wanting to grow.
What Happens in Sessions?
- We might talk about the past as well as the present, and how early experiences might be affecting you now
- We might explore who you wish to become and which seeds are wanting to grow in your life
- We might use imaginative techniques and guided imagery to connect with themes in a more immediate way
- We might use embodiment practices to process through the body rather than the mind
- I’ll ask questions to better understand your story and help you make sense of where you find yourself
- I’ll offer my own reflections and thoughts
- Together, we’ll explore how you might feel a greater sense of agency and contentment in your life
“Life does not proceed by filling gaps, but by conquering inner spaces.”
Roberto Assagioli
Trauma Informed Therapy
Living with trauma can have a significant impact on how you experience yourself and others around you, especially if the cause is related to enduring family dynamics when you were growing up. The effects of trauma can include feeling incredibly self-critical, finding it difficult to trust or rely on others, or finding yourself often in unhealthy and/or codependent relationships.
I aim to create a space that is safe enough for you to explore how trauma may be affecting your life now. We can do this together by making sure we are going at the right pace for you, helping you to notice when you might be becoming overwhelmed or dysregulated, and finding ways you can create more internal safety for yourself so that you can feel more secure in your relationships.
Queer, LGBT+, and ENM/Polyamory Affirming Therapy
I work with people across a range of different experiences of gender, sexual orientation and expression, and relationship style. I affirm all of the diverse ways that relationships and sexuality can be consensually explored, and the many ways that gender can be felt and expressed.
Many of my clients are queer, LGBTQIA+, questioning monogamy or exploring non-monogamy, but not all. Many people I work with simply appreciate having someone to talk with who is sex-positive and open to many different styles of self-expression in relationships.
Relational Therapy
It’s very common for the challenges you’re experiencing in your life to show up in sessions too – familiar difficulties, especially in relationships, often play out in therapy as much as they do in the outside world. Bringing awareness to this, with sensitivity and care, means that we can work together to better understand what’s underneath, and how you can begin to have a different experience.
Coaching or Therapy?
Before training as a therapist I worked as a certified intimacy and relationship coach for several years, supporting many clients to have more fulfilling and satisfying relationships and sex lives. I bring much of this experience into my one-to-one work now, and I am always willing to discuss what kind of approach might work best for you.
Fees & Practicalities
Please head here for practical info, including my current fees.
“We are born in relationship, we are wounded in relationship, and we heal in relationship.”
Harville Hendrix